|Article Overview: How
do you keep an Emotional Brush Fire from raging within a child,
burning up his or her self worth, his or her sense of value?
Find out how the brush fires eating 50,000 acres of land in San Diego
County may be burning in a loved one's soul.
27, 2003—Ground Zero Plus 775
Brush Fires Of Terror
Editor, New York City Combat Correspondent News
GROUND ZER0, New York, N.Y.--Oct. 26, 2003-- As
50,000 acres ravenously burn both empty land and homes in San Diego, County, I think of the
"brush fires of Terror" that sweep through so many peoples' lives.
the key tinder to the "fires of Terror" formula
Underbrush is the key
tinder to the formula of "Fires of Terror," whether they be physical
San Diego County, or, emotional brush fires burning with rage and
anger within us all.
Terror Thoughts are the tinder that sparks our Fear,
Intimidation and Complacency into flames when we experience emotional
brush fires, just as dry, knotted underbrush that accumulates over
time becomes the fodder for earthly fires.
Like Nature's brush fires, Emotional
deep down in our souls. The flickering flames choke off the sunlight, gagging us with the
fumes of angers and regrets, or feelings of loneliness, emptiness,
despair, failure or sometimes just simple, ugly resignation that we're
a loser, or have been cast bad lots from the cruel hand of some
faceless deity, a mean-spirited power, that has singled us out to be the victim in a game of
Emotional brush fires scar our lives, just as
Nature's fires scorch the mantle of Mother Earth, blackening all in
are the most vulnerable victims of emotional brush fires
are the most vulnerable
victims of such emotional brush fires. These
vulnerable little ones are those
who think they are not loved as much as they should be, or cared about
as their friends are, or who think they are ugly, stupid, too poor,
not liked, not popular, not as smart or lucky as other children.
trapped in an emotional brushfire within their souls that burns and
scalds and ultimately scars them into a state of Terrorism of life
They often take two pole positions in the drama
of life itself.
abused by emotional brush fires can become doormats
On one end of the spectrum,
children abused by emotional brush fires that destroy their self worth
become doormats--emotional wallpaper never standing up
for themselves. Many of these children chose to live in a state
of constant denial of their own self values, denigrating themselves to
the lowly position under the belief that everyone
else is above them, and they are lowest step on the ladder. They
often become over eaters, recluses, shying away from a world that is
jabbing hot pokers at them, reinforcing their worthlessness, their
lack of value and importance.
Opposite them are the boisterous, angry people
who selfishly claim they are the hammer and everyone else is the nail.
Inside them rage emotional brush fires of similar nature, only instead
of burying themselves in the ashes of the fires, such people become
sparks, trying to revenge the world by setting the rest of it on fire.
These people trod over others as bulls in a china closet, disregarding
people's feelings, seeking their own self aggrandizement at the
expense of anyone who stands in their way. They become the
trouble makers, the howlers, the screamers and often seeds of
braggart emotional brush fires rage
Ultimately, there is little difference between
the two--the doormat and the braggadocio, self-seeking, self-centered
egotist. Both are convinced they are the center of
the universe: One is the doormat of the universe's entrance, the
other its axis.
While their actions appear opposite, their
motivation is exactly the same--protect themselves from anyone getting
close to the source of the fires within--trust no one, believe in
nothing except the victimization of self.
Deep within both extremes of the "doormat"
and "egotist," exists the tinder of human emotional brush fires.
Just about anything can set the fires within off.
In San Diego
County, arson is suspected as the cause of the fire
Diego County, the authorities suspect arson as the cause of starting
Nature's brush fires. But the primary problem was lack of
"tender loving care." The brush grew too long without
being weeded, removed, trimmed. Neglect created a "State
of Terror." Complacency to the laws of Nature by
environmentalists kept the Sentinels of Brush Fire Vigilance at bay.
When I was a young man working in the
Douglas Fir forests in Oregon, we set slash fires. Such
fires were controlled, designed to remove the tinder from logging
sections--"slash" is brush left in
piles from logging-- that offered nests of danger that could ignite and burn down whole
forests when the hot summers and thunderstorms appeared.
In the fall, when the ground started
to dampen and the fire threat was low, we set whole sections of the
forest afire to burn away the tinder that might eat through the forest
if a wildfire started. We were Sentinels of Slash
Vigilance...using fire to stop fire. We were
cleaning out the rubbish to reduce the danger.
A more common example of the danger
tinder represents is pilling up old rags in a closet, especially those
soaked in cleaning fluids. Spontaneous combustion can set
them on fire, turning an old dusty pile of rags into a fiery time bomb.
School was an example of human brush fires raging
Human emotions are not unlike the
unmanaged brush or a pile of dirty rags commanding a corner of a dark
closet. If the tangles and roots of old limbs and roots are
not cleansed in a controlled manner, a danger exists that an explosion
or a raging fire might ignite. The same is true of a pile of
rags stuffed in a closet where there is little ventilation.
Columbine High School was one example
of human brush fires raging wildly within human environs.
The boys who fostered the hatred toward other students and society
didn't just happen to wake up one day and decide to kill everyone in
sight. There were no Sentinels of Vigilance watching over
their emotional "spontaneous combustion." No one was
Vigilant about their Beasts of Terror, aware that within each of them,
as within us all, rests a pile of rags waiting for other rags to be
tossed upon them until a trigger sparks them into raging flames.
There was no
controlled burning of the Combine Boys' Emotional Terrorism
Columbine Boys fed on Fear, Intimidation and Complacency--the Triads of
Terrorism. There was no controlled burning of their
Emotional Terrorism by Courage, Conviction and Right Actions, for if
there were, they would never design a plan to kill their classmates
and teachers in random acts of revenge against not individuals, but
against an unmanaged Beast Within. A Beast seeks to make its
host think he or she is a victim of life, who proliferates on a sense
of alienation and self depreciation until one begins to believe the
world is a sour grape and he or she forced to drink its bitter juice.
Vigilant people, on the other hand,
learn to refuse to be victims.
Terror-driven people feed on
Terrorism is devious.
It creeps into our souls like a cancer, perhaps a little thought at
first that we're not as worthy as, as gifted as, as smart as, as
fortunate as. Or, it is imposed upon us by those we look to
to shape our attitudes and outlooks. Parents who neglect
their children's defenses against Terrorism fuel the emotional brush
fires. They let the TerrorThought grow within
through neglect or Complacency.
little defense against parents too busy to hug them in the morning
and at night
little defense against a parent who is too busy to give them a hug in
the morning and at night, a parent too concerned with himself or
herself to tell them they love them or to stop what
they are doing and sit with the child and build a bridge of trust so
strong the child never needs to retreat into the caves of the Beast of
Terror to hide the pain of life.
Parenting is like
land management. One of the roles of the parent or guardian is
to clean the brush from the child's soul, to thin it out so that Fear,
Intimidation and Complacency don't choke the potential of the child to
be strong and durable when the world's battering rams slam at his or
her self worth, his or her sense of individuality, sense of community
purpose, sense of value that he or she is a valuable, precious asset.
recognize that life is full of pain, and, who understand the Beast of
Terror stalks all children, are quick to become Sentinels of Vigilance
in all their acts toward a child.
like good land managers
They are like good
land managers. They see the tinder of Terrorism growing around
the roots of the child. They know that if the emotional
underbrush grows too thick, without being burnt away, that there will
be no new growth. The child will become stuck in a rut.
The child will not evolve by learning how to remove the Fear,
Intimidation and Complacency and grow in its place, Courage,
Conviction and Right Actions that benefits future generations,
specifically, the Children's Children's Children.
Vigilance must be fire wardens
As I watch the fires in
San Diego County, I think of the fires that burn through life.
I think of how we, as Parents and Loved Ones of Vigilance must be fire
wardens with our children and ourselves, always ready to remove the
brush that can ignite, explode and rage throughout us if we don't
treat it with respect.
Human beings are
garbage collectors. We keep our emotional trash stored in a deep
bin. We often refuse to dump it. We carry it
around until one day it ignites, driving us into deep states of
despair, or, in a more radical situation, into actions that may hurt
us and others.
The irritated mother who
swings her hand harshly against a child's face, or yells, "Don't
bother me! Can't you see I'm busy..." forgets the child is
burned by such rejection. Deep scars form on the child's soul,
just as they would occur if lit cigarettes were crushed on his or her nubile
Vigilance tells us we must be
careful to keep our children's Fears balanced with Courage, their
Intimidations countered with Confidence, and their Complaciences
managed with Right Actions for future generations.
remind us to clean out our emotional brush bins and weed out the
Brush fires on television are
not just Nature's message to us that we need to keep the ground
cleared or be threatened by Nature's wrath.
Brush fires also remind us to
clean out our emotional brush bins, to weed out the Terrorism within
ourselves and those we love so we can protected from our own demons,
from the wrath of Emotional Terrorism.
You can fight those brush fires
Take the Pledge of Vigilance.
Download it. And use its power to clean out the emotional brush
that may, if left unattended, one day explode.