WHO ARE THE REAL VICTIMS OF COMBAT?
ZERO PLUS 1156 DAYS,--New York, NY, Thursday,
November 11, 2004--On
Veterans Day, Americans salute those warriors who offered their
lives as a sacrifice for freedom. But the question today in
a world of Terrorism is: "Who Are The Real Veterans?"
reflection, I'm going to propose that the true "Veterans
Of Combat" are the children of America, the unsung, unnoticed,
unrecorded heroes of a horrible war where the innocent brave
continuous assaults, attacks and wounds upon their emotional
strongholds and, despite every reason why they should surrender
to the forces of the Beast of Terror, remain strong in spite
of his vicious, preemptive ambushes.
a child as a victim of combat, and a veteran of its devastation,
we need to define what a "war zone" is.
zone" is a configuration of space, arena upon which
the "good" attempts to defeat "evil"
zone" is a configuration of property--a space, arena--upon
which one force, often labeled "good," attempts to
defeat another force commonly labeled "evil." Other
terms that separate these forces are "friend" and
"foe," "ally" and "enemy," "right"
and "wrong," etc.
In a "war
zone," the intention of either both or one party over another
is to decimate the opposition into surrender or annihilation
so that the "property" can become solely owned by
all wars are about power over others, and the preservation of
that power through some vehicle such as land, property or ideology.
Cold War, the battle ground was over "communism" versus
"capitalism." These two ideologies clashed with such
force as to bring the world to the brink of a nuclear holocaust.
wars are fought over the theory of "domination," where
one force seeks to "rule" the land and the people
who comprise it such as Hitler did in his attempt to enslave
Europe under the powers of the Third Reich.
In the Cold
War the battleground was over "communism" over
conflicts conducted within the borders of a nation that pit
one faction or belief system against another--seek to dominate
one internal faction against another, or to usurp existing power
and overthrow it in favor of another kind. The Russian Revolution
was an example of the "rich" being deposed by the
"poor," or the "common people" taking control
over a "ruling monarchy."
these examples, there are many "veterans of conflict"
because the "war zone" is vast. In Civil Wars, often
every inch of a country is part of the "combat zone,"
and at any time at any moment anyone standing in the line of
fire can be cut down, wounded, maimed by the shrapnel.
us into the most gruesome battlefield of all, where the worst
carnage of war exists--the living rooms of America's 100 million
confines of American households exists two forces, a mother
and father, or a mother and significant other, attempting to
co-exist peacefully with the "home nation."
Civil Wars the "war zone" is vast
this "home-nation" complex is the children. America's
population of nearly 300 million boasts 25 percent of that total
0-5, there are 24
million, from 6-11 there are 27 million, and from 12-17,
some 26 million.
a vast majority of these children live in "home-bound war
zones" where mothers and fathers fight desperately for
control and domination over the rulership of the "home
nation." Evidence of this embattled state of "home/nation"
is the divorce rate in the United States that exceeds 50 percent
of all marriages.
is the ultimate separation of two states--the mother and father--and
usually such cleavage is not amicable but rather reeks of animus.
words hurl like artillery in a combat zone in rocky marriages:
"I hate you..." "You don't love me..." "If
it weren't for you..." "You rotten SOB..."
most gruesome battle field of all
the " kill zone" of the home
nature of emotional name calling sets up a "kill zone"
around the children of the household. They hear the accusations
and invectives being snipered by one parent to another, and,
as any "innocent" in the midst of a raging battle,
become scarred and wounded by the fragmentary verbal grenades
that explode, shattering their sense of security, safety and
sense of being loved.
is the physical abuse. Children often witness or see the results
of physical abuse upon one spouse or the other. A black eye
or a bruised arm connects with the sounds of smacking and the
cries of pain that oozes under a child's bedroom door as the
child huddles in fright, wondering when the war between mom
and dad will spill into the child's room.
all violence in a family--either of emotional or physical nature--results
in divorce, often a child is witness to a constant barrage of
emotional "put downs" by one spouse upon another as
the desire to "dominate" and "enslave" the
other by constant degradation of their human value occurs.
can't you do anything right..." "I told you to...."
"I want..." are just some commands the child hears
shot at the other parent who kowtows to the wishes of the dominant
are the attacks directly on the child by one or both of the
parents who use the child as a whipping station for their own
if you weren't born..." "How come you're not smart
like..." "Don't bother me, can't you see I'm busy..."
"Leave me alone..." "It's too bad you're not
abuse cases the child becomes the ultimate victim of the
egregious, of course, is the physical and sexual abuse of a
child by a parent or guardian. The child becomes a source of
torture, the ultimate victim of the "war zone," the
most wounded of all "veterans."
Day, it is easy for us to look to Iraq and wish the safe return
of all our troops, and to honor all the veterans who have sacrificed
or offered their lives to defend the freedom and liberty of
limit our respect and adulation for "adult veterans"
is a travesty to the children of home/nation war zones.
more than 75 million children in America, one third of which
are 0-5 years of age. At least one half of them are being scarred
emotionally by "parental wars" within the household.
no one knows exactly what the numbers of are of "child
veterans of parental wars," but they are vast.
us need only remember our own households to imagine the degrees
of violence, pain and suffering that must exist for many defenseless
children. Like any "victim of war," the child has
no way to stave off such attacks or retaliate.
has assumed the role of Sentinel of Vigilance over the children,
but that role is primarily relegated to the worst cases, small
droppings in a huge bucket.
child afflicted with family disunity most likely will
become a "Family Terrorist"
Veterans of Domestic Wars" is a critical concern to the
future of America, for the more ravaged a child is by disunion
within his or her family, the more scarred and afflicted, the
greater the chances that the child will become a "Family
Terrorist" as were his mother and father in the child's
As a veteran
returning from war is often shell shocked, so is a child entering
life "Emotionally Scarred" by the battles he or she
endured as a child, many of which were designed to degrade the
child, to limit the child's self image, to undermine self worth
and self respect.
the bloody and wasteful attacks on the children, it is vital
that a parent or potential parent become a Parent of Vigilance.
serves as punctuation to the future, the odds are that a child
who grew up in a Terroristic Family will create a similar one
by default. In the absence of a better way to be a parent, the
child will become what he or she knows best--and, a victim of
Family Terrorism knows only retaliation or subservience.
this Veterans Day, we need to address the true "wounded"
and true "maimed" from the Wars Of Family Terrorism.
fight The Beast of Family Terrorism is a giant step toward
the elimination of all wars
happening in Falluja, Iraq today is but a pebble in a sea compared
to what is currently being delivered in a vast number of the
100 million American households to children by parents who are
so selfish and self-centered that they have little comprehension
that their animosity toward their spouses is nothing more than
bullets slamming into the bodies of their children, piercing
their souls, turning them into icy emotional zombies who will
walk the emotional battlefields of life fearful of the next
attack, wary of any attempt to love or be loved because they
fear the same end that their parents' suffered--war!
tribute one can make to the children on Veterans Day is to take
the Pledge of Vigilance. By vowing to fight the Beast of Family
Terrorism, one giant step is taken toward the ultimate elimination
of all wars.
is a source for hatred and violence that erupts into war, it
is the home. A peaceful, loving home has little chance of creating
a spiteful, power-hungry monster with the goal of dominating
the anvil for peace. Take the Pledge of Veterans Vigilance.
Keep your child free from the Domestic War Zone!
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